Friday, March 7, 2008

The Art of Kissing

The origin of the word 'kiss' is uncertain but might come from the Old English cyssan. It is similar to the Saxon kussian and kyssa in the Viking language. In all these languages, the word most likely evolved from an imitation of the sound of a kiss - an onomatopoeic word like 'splash', 'hiss', 'mumble' etc.

*Some kissing gestures give obvious meanings*

1.When a guy either holds the hand of the girl or puts his hand on her neck could be a sign that he wants the girl only for himself as some people call it "Caress"

2.So when your guy is not fond of "touching" and he just rests his hands on either his partner's lower back(protecting the whole upper body) or at the back of her head or probably just holding her hands that is a sign of "Caring" Its like protecting the partner from falling.

3.Those who are fond of touching could be seen as adventurous it would seem that they want more that just kissing then it would no longer be considered as plainly kiss but a foreplay.

4.If they hold hands while kissing, it means security it's like telling one's partner how secured he/she should be that sure with him/her. It's also the same when you hold any part of your partner's arms.

5. An embrace while kissing means insecurity it's like too anxious to let go of that person because he/she is afraid that he/she would loose her/him afterwards.

6. Kissing while holding any other part of the body means differently depending on whatever part your holding.

7. When a guy initiates through the whole action by putting force on his partner it would mean authority. Whoever bends/leans towards the other is the one who is "in charge" bending the head or moving the head allows both people to breathe while kissing then it is also means authority.

8. French people say that smelling one's hair is a sign that one wants to make love to his partner, but in Filipino culture, smelling one's hair means that one is imbibing his partner's presence; kind of appreciating her beauty, her womanhood, her wholeness.

9. A close-eyed kiss is mysterious, because you just let your feelings for each other or each other's senses control the kiss. If one person looks deep into one's eyes before kissing, it is like telling the his partner how sincere he is for the enxt move he's be making; that's he's ready to take whatever consequences it might lead him to. It's like being honest to your partner. So if a guy looks into the girl's eyes then to her lips, then back to her eyes, before he kisses her its like saying "don't be afraid, I'm here to protect you" If he still looks at you straight in the eye after kissing it means he was contented if he looks down he was embarrassed. If he looks somewhere else he wants more.

10. A kiss in the forehead means respect.

There are four other types of kisses described by some other authors. These are as follows:

The straight kiss: when the lips of man and woman are united by direct contact, it is called a straight kiss.

The bent kiss: this position can be described as when man and woman bent towards each other and kissed, it is called bent kiss.

The turned kiss: when one of the couple turns up his or her face by holding the chin and head and then kissed, it is called a turned kiss.

The pressed kiss: when the lower lip is pressed with much force, it is called a pressed kiss.

The fifth kind of kiss can be described as when one holds the lower lip between two fingers, touches it with the tongue and presses it with great force with the lip, is called `greatly pressed kiss`.

The upper lip is woman's sensitive part of the lips and the lower right part is man' sensitive (lip) Kissing signals our brains to produce some kind of hormones that gives a good-all-over feeling. Biologically speaking a kiss prompts another. It helps
produce a chemical in our brains that shouts for more, probably another kiss or more for that.

Wednesday, March 5, 2008


“Love is created not by words but by feelings, not by humans but by hearts. It is better expressed in deeds than in words, for love has not definition, only existence”

To define what faces does love has in the poems is to define the different tone each poem created. Apparently, the face of jealousy, of sorrow and of pain was the only ones I found in the poems.

Rossetti’s poem “song” talks about sorrow and pain. On the first look, one may initiate the sense of death as the cause of sorrow and pain in the poem. One may say somebody is dying and she does not want her lover to mourn for /her. She wanted her lover to go on with his life. On the other hand, the poem may not be about physical death but an emotional death. The poem may talk about letting go where someone want to be set free and to simply let her lover’s feelings for her to fade away. She doesn’t want her lover to be imprisoned in sorrow (lines 2-4) instead she wants him to make afresh start (lines 5-6) wherein their memories together be forgotten (lines 7-8).

The second stanza notifies the reasons why she wants to be free. She does not want to experience anymore of the shadows, the rain and the painful songs she had in their relationship (lines 9-12). And, a much as possible she doesn’t want to remember (lines 15-16) their stagnant relationship which never vision out future (lines 13-14).

Both lovers felt sorrow and pain out of love. The person who wants freedom felt sorrow and pain in their relationship. However, she still sympathized to her lover when she asked her not to suffer her goodbyes. Both of them felt the hurt when the decision of parting was made.
William Blake’s poem “My Pretty Rose –Tree” only justifies that man choose to love and not accidentally falls in love. Man loves the person because he chose to and not because he simply felt in love one of the days in his life. Nevertheless, the man’s verdict brought up jealousy and sorrow as the tone for the entire poem.

The man was tempted by a wonderful offer – something or someone that may never happened again. However, he turned it off because he is sincerely in love with someone else. With much openness and loyalty he told his special someone what happened. Out of jealousy, she left him, leaving only pain to his heart.

The poem informs us that people choose to love, however sometimes though we try to tend this love with care and compassion things turned differently from what we expected. This truth only bears us great sorrow and pain.

Relation to your life…

I’m not in a relationship or in a courtship situation; however, I can sympathized to both first characters in both poems. The first poems transpires a woman who wants to break free from a painful and sad relationship maybe because she‘s not happy anymore. I was once in a courtship where I can barely tell that person that I had enough of his kindness and sweetness. The persistence and the efforts he made only add pain to my heart because I can’t return those. I stretched my patience and understanding but I thought the situation has to stop. It was painful to hurt other people, who do not deserve pain, but then a decision has to be drawn. I hurt him and I hurt myself. Now we were friends – not too close and not too far.

The next poem is the sequel of my first confession. At the moment, I feel the man’s pain because his lover left him in distress. I didn’t accept the love that was offered to me by the person I asked of letting me go because I’m devoted to someone else – some one who never gives sight of my efforts and thoughts of him. I admired this man for a long time, allowing my admiration to grow like a sturdy tree. What made the man in the poem and I different is because I was left not because of jealousy but because of insecurity. I confessed to him of my feelings and after which he was never a good friend anymore. I was left with thorns in my heart, but still I delighted onto those thorns because it keeps me going on, strong and enduring.

For me love is a ring. It never ends. It is as well a big deal. It is a serious type of romance where in one should dedicated his or her life in discovering what lies inside it. It is something to be enjoyed of and be shared to everyone – to friends and family. It is not just a word it is a commitment to be cherished and be taken care of as long as we live.

I also concur to the wisdom given by 1 Corinthians 13: 4 -8 about love. Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, (love) is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury,
it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never fails. If there are prophecies, they will be brought to nothing; if tongues, they will cease; if knowledge, it will be brought to nothing.

I believe that everyone longs for love. Even a child inside his mother’s womb kicks just to solicit for attention – for love. And love is certainly achievable. Love is in the air, all it takes is deep breathing in order to take it into our lives. It surely is for real and not an illusion. Remember that God first loves us and everything He gives is for real. Therefore tangible enough to be received and is/ should be given for free.